Marital Rape – Bangles(handcuffs), Mangal sutra(hallows), Sindhur(blood)

SHE: I was raped.
But they say it doesn’t count as one.

ME: But why?

SHE:  Its just that the rapist happened to be my husband

Marital rape or spousal rape is the act of sexual intercourse with one’s spouse without the spouse’s consent.

It’s a hard reality that India is one of the 36 countries were marital rape is not considered as a crime in the sense of law.

Just read the following excerpts,

“I was raped on my wedding night, then I  was 19 and it was an arranged marriage. It was horrible, my husband had sex with me 7 times on that night. In the morning I was expected to be ready for the rituals but I was totally tired and unable to walk. And I was asked of the reason by my sister law and I broke down and I told her the thing. But she just asked me to rest. Its been seven years and nothing changed. I was beaten for saying no to sex and when I went to the police station, they said their can be no rape by husband and I was asked to go home.

“My husband raped me daily. He forced himself on me, every single day, even on the days I bled. He did not spare me all through the pregnancy and even till the last day of delivery of my child. I want no woman to lose time to speak up against such an atrocity. Speak out early, so that you do not continue to suffer as I did. I was scared of him all along.” (A woman on a TV program)

Virginity- A specimen of morality.

Does the morality of a woman lie between her legs? This is something we usually hear in all those debates associated with the common phenomena of the so called virginity issue. According to the society, virginity means the state of never having had sexual intercourse and a virgin means a person who never had sex. Different cultures have defined  sex and losing virginity in different ways but we better don’t get in to it now(you can just google it). We all know virginity is not something which is limited to the female species of the spectrum and rather, it is equally applicable to the male ones too. However, there is a stigma associated with the former ones. But why? May be it is because they have long hair but pardon I have seen males with much longer hair or may be, it is because of that biological extra more and extra less something that they got. Still , it doesn’t make any sense and the question remains, if it’s a proper basis for such a blemish particular to them.